A grieving child
Sensibility in communication and sensitivity is often manifested even in the earliest years of the child. Inability to control one's emotions leads to frequent and sincere frustration. Many games where someone dominates or wins, are perceived by the toddler as a personal insult. The desire to be a leader, the first, the best generates sobs and resentments. Of course, this behavior is not uncommon. It can even be assumed that most babies, especially boys, go through a similar phase. Who in a more acute form, who is faster and without much hysterics.
In some cases, discontent accumulates for many years and results in a tense relationship. The cause of bad relationships with loved ones can also be childish grievances. Psychologists claim that unconditional love, trust and sincerity in communication can win and prevent such manifestations.
Sometimes communicative problems and the inability to accept losses are associated with the general anxiety of the child . In some cases, it manifests itself as an insult and, even hysterics, every time the baby is not in the lead. For example, ran up/came not first, not the first to eat, did not hit the ball, did not win the game. Often the system of assessments in the family and generally the level of success also affect the perception of the baby. When homes are often mentioned in conversations, achievements, and mom or dad try very hard to be successful, the little one can subconsciously perceive this state of affairs as the norm.
In addition to the aforementioned cases, other reasons may influence the vulnerability of the baby. For example, similar consequences arise in the absence of support and attention. Desire to lead and win the children subconsciously attract loved ones. Therefore, in order to stabilize the situation, it is enough to start paying more attention to the kid, playing together, talking without strangers and hugging, kissing the baby.
By the way, many mothers confirm the effectiveness of keeping a diary of embraces. To do this, you can have a notebook and in any form note daily the number of comments made to the child and, of course, praise. The results of the first days, as a rule, help parents to understand their mistakes and quickly correct the situation.
To help the child overcome the fear of losing, it is important to help, explain, prompt and give examples without negative emotions . To support, warn and prompt is something that can be done an unlimited number of times. It is not always possible to get the message on the first attempt, so do not rush to grieve. Some babies take a long time to learn how to manage emotions. Tell the child that other children also want to win, that this is natural. What can be achieved is a strong result if you persistently follow the goal and train (for example, you can learn how to quickly undress/dress, dexterously jump, run fast, pull up, roll on roller). You can compete with yourself. For example, for a time measured by a stopwatch, add a puzzle piece, collect toys, shoe. Offer is worth something that the child is interested in.
Do not forget to praise your child and talk about your love. Often parents think that the kid already knows and feels that he is coveted and very, very beloved. But it is not always the case. Like adults, gentle words of love to babies are needed as air. Do not forget to hug your crumbs, stroke the head and kiss their fragrant cheeks. It will be very short time and your baby will learn to behave with dignity. In the meantime, he needs support, advice and attention from loved ones.