Children manipulate their parents for various reasons, but globally all the stories boil down to the fact that the child wants to get attention. Young children try to hide their tricks in this way or beg for sweets. The elder consciously deceive for their own benefit. Different motivations do not underestimate the negative of such actions, so in any case it is necessary to help the children understand internal conflicts and find the key to mutual understanding.
"Experts manipulation", if it is appropriate to say so, psychologists consider adolescents, however, many babies succeed in this matter. Gently probing the soil and not checking the parents' reaction to certain situations, even two-year-old babies are able to achieve the desired by means of screaming and tears. This subconscious manipulation is probably primary. In some families, requests, tantrums and demands are firmly established, because parents do not react to the first bells in time. Explicitly controlled by the child, emotional outbursts, caused solely to attract the attention of adults, are the first sign of manipulation.
The instinctive reaction of parents and the desire to please their beloved child, often lead to a negative result. Conflicts flare up more often, the child at the same time almost always achieves the desired. Naturally, when suddenly there is a refusal, there is bewilderment. Then the tears grow larger. Be sure, the kid is unlikely to understand, why with a constant positive result. Therefore, initially follow the established rules.
Typical psychologists consider three methods of manipulation:
1. The first option involves bribery, extortion and tears.
2. The second involves the manifestation of anger and aggression.
3. The third method of children's confrontation can be characterized by the word "against"
To learn to resist the whims and manipulations of children, it is important to show patience and perseverance. Willpower, combined with love, will help to make the right moves. The main thing is not to bring the situation to deadlock crises, when the scandal develops into an unbridled natural disaster.
In the most difficult and neglected situations, the parents have to overcome the difficulties of restoring relationships with the child, following through all three levels of manipulation. The defeat at the last level. By the way, children are always sensitive to their hierarchical position in the family and their opportunities. Actually, that's why they want to achieve what they want for hours, sometimes even days, weeks. Try not to go out in the open conflict, keep your composure and calm. To small children it is possible to repeat the conditions or requirements repeatedly. It is much more convenient to do this looking in the eyes of a child. Only when you make sure that you can understand and understand, you can relax. Sometimes children do not trite the text or misunderstand the meaning of some words. Here we also include an irritated nagging back to the child or an indistinct murmur in a fit of anger.
In summary. Really effective methods of confrontation are many, it all depends on the situation, the child's age, habitual relationships, behavioral framework and other nuances. To find the right approach to the baby and to achieve success in establishing relationships, sometimes you have to try different tactics. It is important not to despair and adhere to the previously established rules. You do not have to achieve complete obedience and thoughtless conquest. It is important for you to transfer to the baby the essential of the requirements. In this case, each individual situation can be further considered for certain nuances, because adults sometimes make mistakes.