A child in an incomplete family
The opinion that the foundation of personality is at an early age is considered unshakable. Of course, this process directly depends on the atmosphere in the house and the relationship of all members of the family. Let's not deny that there are exceptional cases, most often attributed to biographers geniuses, but in ordinary life. Guided by this simple rule, kids are not only outline the behavior of adults, manners, features of speech, etc., but also perceive the way of life inherent in the family, as a reality. The conclusion is that the child has been deprived of the right to live in an inferior family. Is this fair?
About the peculiarities of the upbringing of a child in an incomplete family, thousands of articles have been written, many experts give recommendations to mothers of girls and, separately, the mothers of boys. On the tragedy and pain of the child, psychologists say, reason relatives and complain neighbors. Some regret unsuccessful singles, others angrily condemn. Not being like the majority, I want to note that, in spite of the existing mistakes and the impossibility of living together, in our time, some people still find the opportunity to pay attention to children, being not only in different parts of the city, but also In different countries, so there is always a way out.
Situations are different and describe the ideal model for a variety of divorce cases and other circumstances, unfortunately, it is unrealistic, however, it is possible to identify the most typical conditions when the baby is under the care of one of the parents.
1) The parents divorced, the child stayed with his mother, but the pope often visits, helps or pays alimony.
2) Dad went on a business trip. Three years ago. And stayed to live in unknown lands. In such cases, there is no connection with the former and, of course, he does not notice himself with respect to the child.
3) Divorce, after which each of the partners has a new family. Quite often the duties of the pope are largely performed by the stepfather.
4) Mom left for another. Or left to work and stayed. True, in such situations, the popes rarely bring up the children themselves, most often the role of parents is taken by grandparents.
5) The sad statistics of the departure of one of the parents in a different world.
The double burden of falling on the parent of the parent is burdened not only with material conventions and the physical gravity of the 24-hour presence, but also with emotional coloring, because it is difficult to find Understands what is happening. With respect to the situation, it's the easiest with babies to catch up with, and not yet understand the whole gloom of what is happening (though, of course, the mother's profound experiences of the Faster than she would like). As for children of other ages, it is impossible to single out groups of people. In any case, kids are bored, longing, jealous, offended. However, it is important not to allow doubts in the great love of the pope and mother , as well as not let the little heart sneak into fear.
Many babies are confident that they are the cause of parental quarrels and separation, so you have to make every effort, but to convey to the child that he is the best, most beloved, the most wonderful and unique, and also that He is not involved in the incident.
Talking, reasoning, but what if a child grows up in an incomplete family? Recommendations can be different, depending on the situation and the reaction of the child, but among the main tips can be identified:
1. Mobilize forces and adjust to the situation. The child did not become different, you, too, have not changed, so the natural mission of education.
2. As a mom, stay soft, kind, caring and attentive. Try not to take over the masculinity qualities and not to bend with rigidity and exactingness. Obedience can be achieved by other methods.
3. Trust and mutual understanding are the two foundations for establishing relationships that should be served as a basis for communication with the child for many years.
4. Learn to perceive the situation as a temporary situation and do not despair. Everything is fixable. There are no heights beyond conquest, but the path can be difficult and time-consuming.
5. To communicate with your child, involving friends, acquaintances and relatives of the opposite sex. You can also watch for someone else's dad, and just for a good,
In general, do not be afraid of anything and together walk confidently into the future, smiling at adversities and sincerely, selflessly adoring each other.
If you understand, being a good dad or a wonderful mom is not so difficult, the main thing is to believe in yourself and not look back at others. At you all by all means will turn out!