Parents' typical misconceptions
The well-known systems and methods of education. In the mad tempo-rhythm of modern life, adults want to get an accessible user guide and do not go deep into the children's world. And can you understand the children without remembering yourself at their age and not understanding the essence of their needs and desires?
Speaking of erroneous opinions and misconceptions, it is difficult to be objective, because this is only a point of view from a certain angle. Therefore, let's look at the main examples, but we will only take into account the recommendations, taking into account the adaptation to our situation.
The first error.
Science and knowledge gained from books give the only true direction of upbringing and are dogma.
Разумеется, ощущение любви ребенок получает благодаря надежному тылу, чувству защищенности и вниманию со стороны близких, поэтому такая жизненная энергия черпается от положительных, уверенных в себе людей, не зависимо от уровня их квалификации и количества прослушанных семинаров. Собственно, отсюда и более интуитивно грамотные бабушки, нежели дипломированные специалисты педагогических университетов.
The second error.
Children should always be obedient and comfortable.
The absurdity of this statement is obvious to many, however, unfortunately, not all. In order for life, with children, to become harmonious, one simply needs to get their right to whims, experiences, lamentations and other disorders. Each of us has a mood of swings. Do not require the impossible of children. Give them their sincere feelings.
The third error.
No one needs a child except mom and dad.
Now, by virtue of the circumstances, many live in isolation and rarely meet with relatives, discover a mismatch of views. Naturally, many parents in this case try to subconsciously or even consciously isolate the child from outside influence, which is completely correct with respect to the baby. The more examples of adolescent behavior, the child's age, the easier it is. After all, we are so arranged that everything is perceived in comparison.
The fourth error.
Domination consists in demonstrating superiority and firmness.
To show who is in charge of the family, parents often bring unnecessary cruelty into their natural behavior. Do not focus on the image of a strict leader, because you can show your leadership position in other ways. Compromises, the ability to take a different point of view and even caress.
The fifth error.
Parents are obliged to protect children from all dangers and any experiences.
Paying huge attention to the guardianship, we often go beyond the boundaries of personal space. Any child has a cognitive activity that can not be stopped. Establish conditional boundaries that protect his life and health, but do not interfere with total control.
Probably, many couples will be able to add more than one error, based on personal experience and known cases, but at the same time.